It’s normal to get frustrated with clients who don’t listen...it’s also normal if you’ve ever wondered “is it okay to fire a client?”
I’ve been there before too. In fact, I remember it like it was yesterday.
Becky was one of my hardest clients...and it wasn’t uncommon for her to send me emotional texts - rambling...frustrated...clearly upset with me.
She’d been a weight loss client for a few weeks at this point...
And she still hadn’t seen a single pound drop off the scale.
She was growing frustrated...and honestly?
I was feeling angry.
Angry at myself for not being able to figure it out…
Angry at Becky for not really committing to anything I gave her...
And angry at my lack of real-world-real-problems preparation my certification had clearly missed the boat on.
I remember feeling so proud when I finally graduated and got that piece of paper in the mail.
Making it “official” that I was now somehow equipped to change lives.
But there it was now, hanging crooked on my wall...taunting me.
Cause the truth I was realizing?
Is that it really didn’t hold up in the real world…
It didn’t help me with real people and their real problems at all.
After all, it really didn’t matter what the science said about how much protein someone should eat…
...or whether Becky should be eating 1600 calories a day or 1900…
...or even the difference between sugar in fruit compared to candy…
None of it mattered.
Not if people can’t actually stick to it.
I mean, look.
Here was Becky.
Convinced that her body was the ticket to her dream life.
That the reason she didn’t feel whole...
...happy…
...worthy, or beautiful…
Was that she was too much. She took up too much space.
And so there was Becky...
...saying a little prayer each week before attempting to squeeze into her favorite skinny jeans.
Thinking that if she could just control herself more...try a little harder...
She could erase her “too-much-ness”...and be all of the things she wanted
But what she was failing to realize - what so many people fail to realize
Is that what we control, we simply do not trust.
And what we do not trust, can never make us feel whole, happy, worthy OR beautiful.
So what if…
If instead of just trying to force the number on the scale down…
...we committed to helping our clients re-learn how to trust their hunger…
...to be able to pause instead of react…
...and actually hear their bodies tell them when they’re afraid, uncomfortable, sad or anxious…
(instead of just telling it to “shut up” with another scoop of ice cream)
We might have a chance to help them stop using food to cope…
...to heal their relationship with themselves…
...and get them out of their self-sabotage cycle for good.
We might be able to REALLY change their life.
And I knew that if I was feeling this way?
Blaming myself for the grand canyon sized gap I felt between where Becky was and where I felt capable to meet her…
There were surely other coaches feeling this way, too.
Which is why I committed my career to figuring out the missing piece...the skills we all need but are never taught
And why I’m here sharing this with you now.
So then, this Workshop? It’s meant to teach you the truth about self-sabotage.
The real reason why our clients struggle to stick to what we give them…
And what we can finally shift in our approach to help them loosen the death grip they have on food and their bodies…
...and actually get to the root of the problem that’s keeping them stuck trying to be the “right size” to squeeze into that box.
So if you’re ready to be more for your clients,
(or even if you just want a more predictable map to take them from A to B without the “get back on track” pep talks that drive you crazy)
I’d love it if you’d join me.
